October 25, 2011
Student Explains that Being an Ally is ‘Just the Right Thing to Do’
My name is Carly, I’m a student ambassador for GLSEN and an 8th grader in Arizona.
Since my mom is an ally, I’ve been an ally for basically as long as I can remember. In fact, I don’t think I could imagine that not being a part of my life. And for as long as I’ve been an ally, the question I’ve been asked the most has always been “Why?” “Why do you care so much about gay people if you’re straight yourself?”
Well, there are several answers to that question. First of all, I believe a lack of acceptance and an attitude of intolerance is one of the biggest issues our society faces and one that has been the root cause of some of the most tragic events in history. In this case, anti-LGBT bullying, homophobia and heterosexism in schools have caused tragedies. It has caused the tragedy of talented, bright kids not achieving the success they could be in school or even dropping out because they are too afraid of being harassed to focus on academic success. It has caused hundreds of teens to suffer from anxiety or depression every year. In short, anti-LGBT bullying is a common and extremely serious problem. And I don’t want to just sit by and watch it wreck a ton of amazing young people’s lives. That’s probably the biggest part of why I’m an ally—I think it’s just the right thing to do.
Besides that, I strongly believe that anti-LGBT bullying does not only negatively impact the LGBT community, but also an environment in which no once can feel comfortable being who they are and expressing themselves, for fear of being judged, labeled, bullied, or harassed.
“These kind of hostile surroundings, where everyone is more worried about not becoming a victim then they are about doing well in school or life, is not conducive to a healthy learning environment or a healthy person.”
As an ally, it is my hope that one day, everyone will be able to go to school and just be themselves and focus on being the best they can be. I want to wake up in a world where people are free from gender stereotypes that stifle their ability to lead the life they want to.
Ultimately, I believe the quote that “If you are neutral in situations of injustice, you have chosen the side of the oppressor” is true, and I don’t want to take the side of bullying.
Allies are in a position to “be the change,” as GLSEN says. They have the opportunity to break down the walls between LGBT students and their straight peers that often lead to a feeling of isolation for the LGBT students. To be a voice for people who are in the closet and can’t speak up for themselves, be a supporter for people who are coming out or need somebody to talk to and fight along side all the wonderful LGBT youth who have worked to achieve safer and more inclusive schools.
Being an ally is something I would encourage everyone to do, because although you may face some challenges, I have had so many great experiences and met so many amazing people because of being an ally. And at the end of the day, I feel really proud to be a part of a movement that involves people of all different sexual orientations and gender identities, joined together for a great cause.