Hundreds of thousands of participants across the country have taken a vow of silence today to highlight the impacts of anti-LGBT bullying & harassment on youth. As the day comes to a close, we wanted to suggest some actions you can take to break the silence in the coming days, weeks and months.
If you have a minute:
If you have an hour:
If you have an afternoon:
After over 11 hours of impassioned debate led by mostly Republicans on the House Floor this week, the state of Minnesota became the 16th state to pass a comprehensive and enumerated bullying prevention law that protects students who are most vulnerable to being bullied or harassed because of their actual or perceived sexual orientation, and gender identity or gender expression. As we come together to celebrate this victory with our partners including OutFront Minnesota, we are excited to share GLSEN’s safe schools work over the past decade to secure LGBT-inclusive bullying prevention bills in 20 states.
In Minnesota, our investment in this long-term process included helping to form and support the Minnesota Safe Schools for All Coalition, a group of more than 120 education, LGBT, and youth-serving organizations who support passage of comprehensive legislation to strengthen policies against bullying and harassment in Minnesota schools. We have supported the coalition by providing model language and drafting legislation; providing Minnesota state-level school climate "snapshots" for use by local advocates; mobilizing support from corporate, government, and legislative partners as well as other national organizations positioned to assist.
Recently, GLSENs Office of Public Policy was a major sponsor of Minnesota’s Youth Summit and visited the state on several occasions when suicides in Anoka Hennepin schools called attention to a crisis among LGBT youth there.
The ground-breaking work in Minnesota highlights a great example of GLSENs long-term work in partnership with Equality Federations and advocacy groups across the nation to create a safe and supportive school climate for all students to learn and succeed.
Minnesota is one step closer to becoming the 17th state to enact a comprehensive anti-bullying law that explicitly protects students from bullying based on sexual orientation and gender identity.
Thanks in large part to GLSEN supporters in Minnesota and the local statewide of OutFront Minnesota, the Minnesota Safe and Supportive Minnesota Schools Act passed the Senate floor last night with a vote of 36-31. Fifteen amendments were considered during the five-hour floor vote. The coalition of lawmakers supporting the bill held strong and passed a comprehensive bill that would make all students safer in Minnesota.
GLSEN will continue our work with the Safe Students for All Coalition in Minnesota, a coalition group we helped form 10 years ago, to ensure that an LGBT-inclusive bill will also pass the House, with a vote likely early next week, and eventually become law.
GLSEN’s Day of Silence has always been a powerful event for me. Since I was 12, I felt as if there was knowledge to spread. My brother has high-functioning Autism and I created a support group for those siblings who needed someone to talk to. From there it expanded to teen violence, racism towards biracial people, like myself, and beyond. I had always wanted to raise awareness of the troubling issues that diverse communities face.
I moved to San Diego from Ventura County in 7th grade and transferred out of public school to be homeschooled afterwards while my mom was going through her breast cancer treatment. During this time, my classmates from Ventura were part of this thing called a Gay-Straight Alliance and participating in something called the Day of Silence. I didn't know anything about the LGBT community except from the occasional poorly-portrayed gay character on TV. All I knew was I had to be a part of this day.
I read the info on the event invite and decided to put it in motion. Only problem? The projected audience was a school, and I wasn't in public school. So I took it to the next level and brought the Day of Silence out to the community.
My mom and I were running errands and started off with the overcrowded post office. At the time, I didn't have the resources that GLSEN provides. Instead, I improvised. I wrote up some information about tragic events that occurred around the nation, including the murder of Matthew Shepard, and explained my reasons for taking a symbolic vow of silence. I would carry this note around with me all day.
At the post office, a woman attempted small talk with me and I took out my note. She tilted her head to the side as she read the note. Then came the gasp, and her hand covered her mouth. She apologized and thanked me. I put my hand on her shoulder and nodded.
The day was filled with shock from passersby and by the end of it, I felt accomplished. I took the Day of Silence beyond school and brought it to the community. And by doing so, I raised awareness of anti-LGBT harassment that takes place every day.
Ari Segla is a GLSEN Student Ambassador.
Maybe you had a really great Day of Silence experience in high school and you want to keep it up. Maybe you're an educator looking to support your students. Maybe you wish you'd heard of the Day of Silence when you were in school and you're making up for lost time.
Whatever your reasons, there are plenty of ways to honor GLSEN's Day of Silence on April 11, even if you aren't currently a student. Here are our favorite things you can do.
9. Write your Senators and Representatives about the Safe Schools Improvement Act. SSIA, GLSEN's signature legislation, would require all public K-12 schools to enact an anti-bullying policy that includes specific protections for bullying based on sexual orientation and gender identity, along with other categories like race and religion. SSIA currently has more cosponsors than ever before. Contact your local legislators asking them to support the bill so they know just how many people support safe schools.
8. Connect with a local GLSEN chapter to learn how you can support their work on the ground. GLSEN's 38 local chapters carry out GLSEN's mission with schools and communities across the United States. Contact the chapter closest to you and ask how you can help.
7. Donate to GLSEN. We rely on donations from compassionate adults who are committed to making schools safer for students everywhere. Even if you can't participate in the Day of Silence, your donation will help us provide resources to students who can.
6. Change your profile picture on social media. Official Day of Silence graphics are available on our Facebook, Twitter and Tumblr, and at the Day of Silence website. Choose your favorite graphic and make it your profile picture or cover photo to show others you support the Day of Silence, even if you're unable to participate yourself.
5. Take a Selfie for Silence. Print out a Selfies for Silence sign and fill in your reason for supporting LGBT youth and their allies on the Day of Silence. Snap a photo of yourself holding the sign and share it on Facebook and other social media. If you can, hang up the sign at work, school or anywhere else it might spark conversation about the Day of Silence.
4. Wear an official Day of Silence t-shirt. Whether or not you're silent, wearing Day of Silence gear communicates to students and others that you're committed to safe schools for all students. Buy an official GLSEN Day of Silence shirt in our online store, make your own Day of Silence shirt, or simply wear the official Day of Silence colors -- black and red.
3. Donate an LGBT-themed book to a local library. Silencing occurs in school and local libraries when LGBT-related books are deliberately excluded from the shelves. Find a book that addresses LGBT issues in a way that's suitable for elementary, middle school or high school readers (we have a few suggestions to get you started). Look for a copy at a used bookstore near you, or bear to part with your own beloved copy.
2. Vow to be silent on social media. If your workplace or other responsibilities don't allow you to be silent for the day, post a status update Thursday night explaining that you will refrain from posting on social media all day to show your solidarity through "social silence." It may not have the same effect as being silent for the day at school, but you'll still be taking a vow of silence!
1. Share your story. If you participated in the Day of Silence, joined a Gay-Straight Alliance, or experienced bullying when you were in school, chances are LGBT youth could learn from your story. Write a blog post or editorial or record a short video about your experiences, then share it on social media or with a local newspaper or website. (You're also welcome to send us your blog post for publication!) In addition, if you're in contact with LGBT youth, invite them to have a conversation before or after the Day of Silence about what they've gone through and how it may relate to your own experiences.
Any other ideas? Drop us a line and let us know!
My name is Jake Martinez and I just started as the new Education & Youth Programs Assistant here at GLSEN. It has been a really exciting and eventful week. I’ve already begun to learn so much about this incredible organization and have even started assisting in the preparation for the upcoming annual Day of Silence on April 11th. I’m eager to discover what plans this organization has for me and meet the many people who work to create change in our school communities.
To tell you a little bit about me: I grew up in Phoenix, Arizona and spent most of my life there. During my early high school years, I was a very shy and quiet student. I rarely spoke out or tried to make friends. I came from a completely different neighborhood and didn’t know any of the kids at my school. For the first couple of years, this was hard. Not only was I new to this school, but I was also struggling with understanding my identity. I knew I was a different a young age, and came to realize that I was gay at the age of 14. I waited a while before telling my parents, both of whom were very supportive. But it was my own internal struggle and desire to be accepted by society and my peers that led to a challenging year of self-discovery. I grew tired of feeling confused and misguided and began to reach out to local organizations in my community to talk to older, more knowledgeable LGBT youth about the issues that I was facing. After beginning to attend this group and seeing the many problems in the community, I wanted to make a difference in any way that I could. I started participating in a GSA in my high school and, in my early college years, began to engage in grassroots organizing to fight for a marriage equality effort in Arizona.
After starting a career in social justice, I began working to protect civil liberties for all as the Special Projects Associate for the ACLU of San Diego & Imperial Counties where I educated and trained volunteers on social justice issues, supported the many teams and their work, and also learned more about education equity.
As of just a few days ago, I took part in a cross-country road trip from San Diego to New York to be a part of this team. It was an eye-opening experience and gave me the opportunity to see so many beautiful places in this country. And now I’m here and ready to make a difference in schools – to provide a safe space for all students and develop resources for educators. I look forward to being a part of the movement and making a difference. Even if I can create change for just one person, whether that be a student, an educator or someone who may feel like an outsider – I will take pride in the fact that the world is changing, one step at a time.
Have you ever been scared of someone hating you just because of who you are based on misunderstandings - and one of those people was yourself?
If you answered yes to this question, you have survived those terrifying situations due to a strong personal resolve and a coalition of support in your life. Consequently, you have an obligation to protect the lives and livelihoods of LGBTQ* (lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning) youth in your community and beyond by supplying yourself as a resource to a young person struggling to find and accept themselves in the face of severe oppression.
By my freshman year, I had come out at school to provide a source of help and understanding for my many questioning peers. My lifelong mentorship to LGBTQ* kids officially commenced as I joined my school’s fledgling Gay-Straight Alliance (GSA) and extended my online research to the jaw-dropping realm of GLSEN. Entering into sophomore year, I had become GSA president and engaged heavily with GLSEN, which empowered me to change the worlds of queer students everywhere around me.
However, my advocacy was thrown into a completely new stream when I was gaily (excuse the pun) approached by the youth group at my Unitarian Universalist church. In that little congregation within a congregation, I was informed by an excitable ally that a 13-year-old boy had bravely shared with the religious education class that he is gay, and they wanted to introduce the two of us so that he could ask any questions and receive general guidance from a kid who also came out at 13.
That boy, BW, is one of the sweetest people I have ever had the privilege to meet. While his immediate family was largely accepting of his sexual orientation, his neighbors were not nearly as kind or open-minded. It turns out that BW has been homeschooled for most of his education, due directly to the fact that he has been harassed permanently in public school regarding his outward gender expression and polite displays of feminine attributes since the early elementary years.
But BW’s bullying at school didn’t stop once he relocated to home. The students with whom he was homeschooled taunted and harassed him extensively for his sexual orientation and constantly evoked a few lines of the Bible to justify their perspective without ever opening their minds to the loving and accepting notions expressed by Jesus himself. His peers and their parents mercilessly treated him with degradation and verbal abuse, going so far as to say that he did not deserve to live.” As a reminder, BW is 13. So are these kids.
Thankfully, when BW reached out, he had a supportive family and a very supportive church community to latch onto (the church holds PFLAG meetings, marriage equality rallies, and is heavily populated by LGBTQ* people). When BW reached out, he had someone willing to care enough to offer their time and experience to a confused young boy. When BW reached out, he needed a lifeline - and he got one. He didn’t need much; barely a few hours of conversation, illumination, and a small donation of my now unnecessary teen queer lit. I have seen him grow so much since I have had the privilege of intervening in his life, blooming into an outgoing, charismatic personality because he is no longer afraid of who he is. I would never trade our friendship.
If I - a high schooler with limited free time - can make the effort to make a positive difference in someone's life, so can you. If you cannot mentor a queer youth, be ready and willing to refer them to someone who is or an organization with resources that can help them survive in a world frequently hostile to LGBTQ* people. Make the difference in someone’s life because someone made the difference in yours.
Liam Arne is a GLSEN Student Ambassador.
GLSEN Baltimoreis distributing materials to local GSAs that are participating in Day of Silence. There will also be a DOS march around the Washington Monument in downtown Baltimore followed by a picnic and story sharing as part of an official 'Breaking the Silence.' The focus of the story share will be on Kay Halle, former Co-chair who recently passed.
GLSEN Greater Cincinnati will hold their Prom April12th. This year’s theme is “Night of Noise.” GLSEN Greater Cincinnati Prom includes dancing, DJ, snacks and soda for LGBTQPIA youth and their allies in a safe, supportive space. Saturday, April 12, 2014, 7:00 pm – Midnight. Amberley Ballroom, Mayerson JCC, 8485 Ridge Rd, Cincinnati, OH 45236
GLSEN Greater Kansas City we will be having Breaking the Silence/Night of Noise activities for the first time at the Like Me Lighthouse on April 11. The Rally will be at Mill Creek Park in front of the JC Nichols Fountain. The rally will start about 4:00 and continue to the Breaking the Silence Pizza party.
GLSEN Hudson Valley will be hosting a Breaking the Silence Dance in collaboration with the Kingston High School GSA and the Hudson Valley LGBTQ Community Center on April 11th from 7-10pm. This will be the 4th year we have held the dance. We have on average 30-40 youth participating.
GLSEN Middle Tennessee's Jump-Start Student Leadership Team, in collaboration with community partners, will host a Day of Silence kick off at OutCentral (1709 Church Street, Nashville, TN) on Sunday, April 6th. We invite student leaders from LGBTQ-inclusive youth-led organizations to attend at no cost! The morning event will feature tools that GSAs and individuals can use to commemorate Day of Silence in their own schools. After lunch, students will facilitate a panel of "out" individuals and activists from different walks of life.
GLSEN New York City launched their Day of Silence Fund for GSAs. The fund was open to GSAs seeking financial assistance in support of their Day of Silence organizing. Students or faculty/staff from any school in the 5 boroughs were invited to apply for up to $100 to use towards their efforts. Awarded schools include a new school that supports students who are over age and under credited: Professional Pathways High School. In addition, Mount Olive High School, Midwood High School, Susan E. Wagner High School, East Side Middle School - M114, Abraham Lincoln High School, Plainedge High School and East Brooklyn Community High School all received grants.
GLSEN New York Capital Region has organized the annual Breaking the Silence Rally at the EGG since April of 2002. This event, free of charge to participants, gives our LGBT youth and their allies an opportunity to come together and break their vow of silence as a group. Once the silence is broken, an open mic program encourages everyone to come up on stage and share their experiences. The event takes place Friday, April 11at 4:00pm - 10:00pm at the Empire State Plaza Concourse in Albany.
GLSEN Northern Virginia will hold a Breaking the Silence event at the Unitarian Universalist Church of Arlington. They expect 80-100 students and it is a dinner, open mic, and dance!
GLSEN Phoenix is participating in the Phoenix Pride Parade on Saturday April 5 from 9:30am-12. They are inviting people to march with them to show our strength in the cause for safe schools for all students and will be promoting DOS at the event by encouraging them to “take a vow.” Bottled water and buttons provided. GLSEN shirts for sale. They have an official registration for marching with them in the parade
GLSEN Pittsburgh held a series of workshops on March 20th (Westmoreland County) and March 21st (Allegheny County) to help students brainstorm activities in support of Day of Silence. The last workshop made it to the Pittsburgh Post-Gazette.
GLSEN Richmond: So far, seven high schools in Virginia are participating in the 2014 Day of Silence program. They are Appomatox Regional Governor’s School, The Collegiate School, Freeman HS, Louisa HS, Matoaca HS, Powhatan HS, and York High School. GLSEN Richmond is supporting High Schools by providing GLSEN swag for their school organizing.
GLSEN San Diego is awarding 19 of their local GSAs a $75 gift certificate for the GLSEN store so that they can put it towards purchasing DOS materials.
GLSEN Southern Nevada is hosting a Day of Silence Breaking the Silence Rally at the The Gay and Lesbian Community Center of Southern Nevada located at 401 S. Maryland Pkwy Las Vegas, NV 89101
GLSEN Tucson will be tabling during opening night of a local high schools performance of The Leramie Project. Appropriately enough, the first performance is on Day of Silence! The chapter plans on having some GSA students there to talk about DOS and will provide resources for interested community members.
GLSEN Washington State is planning a Breaking the Silence Beach Party! The event is a chance for LGBT youth to celebrate their accomplishments, mingle and share stories. It will take place at Alki Beach Shelter - across from Pegasus Pizza.
Maine may be the first state to achieve marriage equality by popular vote, but that is only part of the story. Southern and coastal Maine tends to be more progressive than inland, northern and eastern parts of the state. The statewide marriage equality vote was heavily carried by those more progressive areas, where the state population is concentrated. In other areas the vote was definitely negative, in keeping with the generally conservative and religious populations there. The work that the Downeast Maine chapter of GLSEN does is mostly in that part of the state.
We learned a few years ago that students in a high school in a very rural conservative area were attempting to start a GSA, and were experiencing strong reluctance from the administration. Although other clubs could be started with only the blessing of the administrators, the GSA for some reason required the Board's approval, and it was hard to get the matter on their agenda. Months became two years, but the ninth-grade boy who initiated the idea was persistent.
Over the next year, a newly-formed PFLAG chapter in the area, together with the Downeast and Southern Maine GLSEN chapters, and with some lawyerly help from Gay & Lesbian Advocates and Defenders (GLAD), collaborated to support the students. Students also initiated a social media campaign and gathered hundreds of "likes." Together we persuaded the school administrators that they had no legal right to deny the GSA's formation unless they disbanded all school clubs. We were pleased to learn then from the same administrators that they had been in favor of the GSA from the beginning, despite their having given no indication of that.
Now three years later the GSA is thriving. They have had several school-wide events, are well-known, and even carried a large banner in the school's Homecoming Parade last fall. We have been staying in close touch with them, and occasionally attending their meetings.
To date there has been no contagion to other schools in that part of the state, but our GLSEN chapters are working on it!
--Peter Rees is a member of GLSEN's Downeast Maine chapter.